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Sibling Rivarly as Hatred


         What do you do when a sibling tells you they hate you and they really mean it?  No, not we had a fight and he/she hates you for a week and the two of you are back talking again.  I mean the kind since your birth type of hate.  Well, this is the topic today as many may have or be experiencing this and not know how to handle it.  Whether there is a 4 to 10 age difference between siblings or if its 2 to 6 siblings.  Hatred can be real and true between siblings.  One can love the other dearly, but be completely despised in response.  


        Gaslighting is a big way for the sibling who does hate the other to treat them, because it gives them more power and makes the sibling question their reality.  It's as if the hated sibling is on a string being pulled which ever way the other sibling wants them to go.  When the person is being gaslighted, he/she should guard what's important to them.  Those are the things the sibling will go after in order to hurt you.  They will constantly try to wear you down over timing with their up and down ways and behaviors toward you.  The sibling who does the hating has some in depth issues they have to deal with.  Whether or not they specifically have to deal only with the hated sibling is unknown.


        The reason one sibling may hurt and hate another sibling may have nothing to do with the siblings directly.  For example, if Girl X and Boy Y are born three years apart.  They have more in common, get along due to the closeness in age.  Additionally, their parents provide many things for the both of them because it's only two of them.  Then, 7 years later Girl Z is born and gets attend from Boy Y and both parents.  Despite Girl X always showing independence, she becomes jealous of Girl Z.  Over the years, this jealousy turns into hatred.  There are also many stories and examples of sibling rivalry and relationships on television, social media and movies, it's ridiculous.  Yet, real life is real life!


        When that sibling displaying hatred toward you, ignoring it is easier said than done.  Separating yourself from your sibling on a regular basis or only seeing them on at necessary family functions may be a great way to start dealing with the issue.  Seeking professional psychological help individually or as a family is another option.  Talking to a close and trusted friend who is non biases (if possible).  Most friends know your sibling or have her stories, so the may be too bias or not bias enough, so take that into serious consideration. 

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