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The Loss of a Parent

      The loss of a parent is felt different by everyone. The grieving can last from days to months to years. No one person can say how another should feel a specific way or react.  Actors and actresses can do only that, act.  The depth to which an individual grieves can only be determined by the person.  Strength in the person comes from something greater than themselves.  They have to go through all their personal process of grief in order to recover appropriately for their lives.  Their lives have forever changed due to the death of their parent, whether they were close to the parent or not.  Lives are changed and movies only depict a summarized portion of how grief effects it.  

    The recent death of my father has led me to watch more movies, ironically.  He and I would talk about everything 3 to 4 times a day every day.  Now, I watch movies as one of my pass times.  Some are supposed to represent the grief process but are very unrealistic.  It can't be summed up in a one-part movie, because that is not how life works.  The death of a parent to some, is a child's entire belief of existence.  Losing them could mean losing themselves.  The loss of self would require the person to find themselves again through a higher being or belief system.  Most individuals look to the Lord for help, answers and comfort.  The contrast or similarity between movie depictions of grief and reality can confuse or motivate someone.  This could lead to situations of domestic abuse, drug use, suicide, murder and other violent crimes.  

    Now, both of my parents are deceased and there was something different I experienced from each of them.  The main thing was that I could not do it alone!  I needed help from the Lord.  I was going to break with the death of my mother.  He helped me, a therapist helped and so did my father.  Yes, they were all blessings, but the struggle was just that, a struggle.  It also prepared me for the passing of my father.  I understood the difficulty, but not to the extent.  Drama presented itself like never before and no movies could have predicted it.  Actors and actresses do not have to be transparent, and they need their privacy, but some of these movies they're in should produce more realistic version of grief and loss.  If they can't find a real enough storyline, I have one for them.


Peace and Love

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